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June 2014



Archive for June, 2014

What’s the best way to start a blog?

How do you start a conversation when you don’t know for sure who you’re talking to–at least, you can’t see them–and no one has suggested a topic. Or even a word count. Big dilemma! I think the best way to start is to lay out the groundwork, so you know whether you’ll want to revisit […]

Learn to forgive

You can’t go back in time and change the past, so feelings of regret and guilt are, in my opinion, a waste of energy. Most people handle situations in the only way they know how, or as best they can at the time, so blaming them makes little sense. Instead, use your precious energy to […]

Build on the positive ….

…rather than only trying to eradicate the negative When you get rid of a problem or a bad habit, you will be left with free time. If you have not thought about how to fill that time productively, the chances are high that your difficulties will recur. Therefore, when you’re formulating a plan to deal […]

Seek role models to inspire you

The most powerful role models in our lives will almost always be our parents or main carers. This is because we depended on them for our very existence when we were young, so we observed carefully and valued hugely everything they did. However, for reasons I don’t fully understand, later in life we tend either […]

Consider the role you are playing!

This is extremely difficult, and to do it you must be very honest with yourself. Try to step back from the situation and ask yourself if there’s any way you can behave differently to make things better. The power of this technique was brought home to me years ago, when an extremely experienced relationship therapist […]